A BRAND NEW APPROACH TO BULLYING:
Hi! I'm Dr Emily Lovegrove (BSc. PhD), a psychologist who
specialises in researching how our appearance affects bullying issues.
And developing successful anti-bullying strategies. If you looked up this page you are probably feeling fed-up about bullying. Here are some quick facts to help you start to feel a bit better FAST!!
WE ALL KNOW YOU NEED TO STAND UP TO BULLIES BUT READ THIS FIRST...!
1. Don’t feel isolated! Everyone gets bullied. But there are tricks for dealing with it and all you need to do is learn them.
2. How can you tell if you’ve been bullied? Don’t worry about definitions of bullying (usually along the lines of ‘it’s only bullying if it’s repeated, deliberate and involves an imbalance of power’). Feeling we've been bullied only has to happen once to put us firmly in our place for a long time. Nor is it always deliberate – we’re probably all guilty of saying something thinking it’s ‘only in fun’ or ‘just being honest’. And what if we feel bullied by someone younger or smaller than us? Let’s just say when we feel humiliated by someone or by circumstances we need to work on feeling better about ourselves fast.
3. If you get bullied it’s not because you deserve it somehow. It’s because the person doing it needs the power. Others join in on the winning side because they fear being next! It's rarely anything to do with you personally.
4. All human behaviour is based on feeling rewarded so if bullies find they gain power and self-esteem from bullying they are not going to change! You’re the one who’s upset so it’s going to have to be you! Not easy but you can do it.
5. Most physical bullying sets off with psychological bullying (making fun of others, leaving them out, spreading rumours). The Lovegrove Approach offers strategies that encourage the emotional, social and problem-solving skills that sort out psychological bullying and make physical bullying much less likely.
6. The Lovegrove Approach is based on 10 successful anti-bullying strategies that increase your self-confidence to tackle bullying that happens to you and to help others. Because this system was developed with young people, it's very popular with school pupils. (As well as adults!)
7. Strategies that make us feel good about ourselves and less judgemental of others are the ones that are ultimately the most successful. To pass the usefulness test, each strategy has to: